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216 pages, Hardcover
First published March 5, 2019
Okay, right off the bat, this book is catchy. It's like super catchy.![]()
You are allowed to want more for yourself for no other reason than because it makes your heart happy.
Most of us only consciously use a small percentage of our brain power. But have you ever seen one of those movies where the protagonist suddenly has access to all of it...I'm convinced that many women in this world of ours are...operating at a fraction of their potential..."And that is a pet peeve of my mind for two reasons
1) it is a tired trope. Everyone has quoted it so often...and then to see it in her book, yet again...makes me even further question the originality of everything.All that being said, I do think this is an entertaining read...problematic at times, inaccurate and copy-pasted...but still entertaining.
2) it isn't even factually correct. If we put all of the brain towards thinking...we'd be dead. There's a lot more to living life than that...how else do you think we can manage moving, breathing, digestion, sensory perception and more? The human race didn't spend several billion years inventing the brain and decide not to use it all so the self-help gurus can have a sick quote to throw at their audience.
“Shame is a focus on self, guilt is a focus on behavior. Shame is "I am bad." Guilt is "I did something bad." Guilt: I'm sorry. I made a mistake. Shame: I'm sorry. I am a mistake."- Brené Brown
I didn't understand it at that time, but I felt extremely ashamed of being a working mom, and I felt ashamed for years. So many years, I wasted nodded up inside about other people's expectations for my life. So many years of being distracted from my core mission because I was so worried about others perceptions. So many years, I spent apologizing for who I was, not verbally apologizing. My apologies were so much more hurtful because I didn't say I am sorry with my words. I apologized for the way I lived my life.”
"To establish a healthier physical environment, get up an hour earlier and use that time for yourself. This is especially powerful to moms. If your kid wakes you up in the morning, you are screwed. You are. You are already behind the eight balls. If the kid is crying or a toddler woke you up asking for Cheerios, you are starting your day on the defensive instead of on the offensive. That extra hour in the morning before your family gets up is key; it's everything.
Those of you who say you don't have any time for yourself, this is the time! If you want to work out, if you want to read a book, if you want to pray, if you want to write your first novel, if you want to have the time to pursue your goals, get up an hour earlier."
"Excuses to let go of
1) That's not what other women do
2) I'm not a goal-oriented person
3) I don't have time
4) I'm not enough to succeed
5) I can't pursue my dream and still be a good mom/daughter/employee
6) I m terrified of failure
7) It's been done before
8) What will they think?
9) Good girls don't hustle
Behavior to adopt
1) Stop asking permission
2) Choose one dream and go all in
3) Embrace your ambition
4) Ask for help!
5) Build foundations for success
6) Stop allowing them to talk you out of it
7) Learn to say no
Skills to acquire
1) Planning
2) Confidence
3) Persistence
4) Effectiveness
6) positivity
7) Lead-Her-Ship”
"My anesthesiologist turned out to be blond tanned and basically a very, very young person. Like whatever age you have to be to just make out of the Medical School, that's what we are dealing with here. His name was Dr. Heiden, he said. He spent the morning surfing, he said. I remember telling to the medical personnel that no anesthesiologist should look like this guy. He was supposed to be bald and 60 plus years old. He should look like Danny DeVito. I remember all the nurses and Doctors laughing at me, and I remember me thinking, "Shut up, Rachel, Shut up. But I was too far gone. I could not shut up. ”
"The average woman's to-do list is approximately 319 items long, which means you are never going to get through it anyway. So let's let go of the idea of a to-do list and focus instead on creating a results list. And by "result," I mean, what is the end result I'm looking for from this work session. ”
“Who you are is defined by the next decision you make, not the last one. ”
I also could give a crap about a blog, like the author talks about having started, but that's neither here nor there.
My take on this thing is that in essence it's devoid of real substance & exists more as a marketing ploy for the author to promote herself & whatever kind of brand she is trying very hard to make herself into. If there were something solid here on offer to the world then all that would be fine, but really it's just a lot of zoloft-saturated air, trying ever so hard to be your peppy, spunky, upbeat girlfriend.
It's not based in the reality most people live in. It's really just a big commercially-hip (read as not actually hip or cool) production. I mean, L.A. & group dancing before team meetings? (um, creepy while still remaining awkward.) Oh no, people were mean to her on the internet when she had a blog? Oh, she was a fat kid w/ uneven bangs & second-hand clothes? How mundanely mainstream. Give me a break.
Personal eye-rolling aside, I tried w/ this. I really did. The tone doesn't change though, so I'm done. If I wanted thinly-veiled bullshit I'd get back on facebook, watch "reality" television, turn on the radio, & go back to church. Maybe I'd even move to L.A.
No thanks.